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How to Ask for a Recommendation Letter (Without Making It Weird)

TL;DR

  • Pick someone who actually knows your work, not just the person with the fanciest title.
  • Ask early. Two to four weeks minimum. Last-minute requests put people in a bad spot.
  • Ask in person or over a real conversation first, then follow up in writing with specifics.
  • Give them a "brag sheet" — your resume, the role or program you're applying to, and a few concrete accomplishments they can reference.
  • Make it stupid easy to say yes: deadline, submission method, formatting requirements, all spelled out.
  • Say thank you. Then say it again when you land the thing.
  • If you...